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5 Tips for incorporating BDSM into your busy life schedule

Do you end up forgetting about BDSM, or even just sex, when you're chaotically busy?


Okay, so Sir and I are highly guilty of this. We sit down after work, switch on the TV and get drawn into what is the next best thing going on Netflix (Behind Her Eyes right now, if you must know), I've spoken to some fans on my fan club, and before you know it, we are yawning and ready to sleep.


Wash, rinse, repeat, seven days a week, 365 days a year.





I've shared some of my thoughts on 24/7 relationships previously and do struggle to work out just HOW people can successfully achieve this without one of them being a millionaire (Mr Grey, I'm looking at you), but seriously any tips do share.

BUT more recently, we have started having more play sessions or, at the very least more sex! And here are my top tips on how to incorporate time for sex, kinky fun, or just spending time with one another that doesn't involve one of you drooling as you snore your way through the Netflix show. Yes, it used to be Netflix and chill now it's more like

Netflix and kill...


Make sure you take care of yourself and notice each other


You can't pour from an empty cup, and you're certainly a lot less likely to feel up to a good session with your other half if you are:

a. tired,

b. hungry,

c. thinking about the shopping you need to do later, or

d. a combination of all of the above.


Make sure you're practising good self-care, you're up to date with your sleep schedule, you've eaten well, and you're looking after yourself and the other person in your life.


Put down the remote


Seriously, stop. Stop doing absolutely anything else that doesn't involve sexy-time. For me, it's often I'm working late and prioritising work over my relationships (that's a whole other blog). Or we end up in that never-ending cycle outlined above.


Just stop, turn off the TV, switch off the laptop and be with one another. Enjoy each others' company, touch one another.


Share the household duties


If you already do this, great. We don't (and it's not me doing the majority, sorry!). But as shared above, thinking about who has to do the shopping or how many dishes you need to do before you go to bed or just who did the hoovering last does not get many of us into a sexy frame of mind.


If needed, HIRE A CLEANER. Get someone in to help you, and take your mind off those things that eat away at your brain when you're trying to have fun.


Go to bed early


Having enough sleep is essential. Consistent bedtime and sleep routines are important even for us grown-ups.


We are so guilty of that, oh, one more episode and then it's 1 am, and neither of us wants to do anything that is fun and exciting.

So TRY and go to bed early, start at least one night per week and stick to it!


Set up a schedule


Yes, I know I can hear you groan through the computer screen already, but, honestly, it works if your BDSM schedule has gone off the track re-schedule it.


Ensure the kids are in bed, go and put something sexy on (yes, both of you!), and have some fun. Don't feel bad because you have to schedule things now.


I wish we could all live in a world where we could do what we want when we want (again, any tips, please do share), but at least this way you get to have some fun!!




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