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Ropes and Cumming and Knives: Oh My! What is Edge Play?

Edge play is something that is often discussed at length within the BDSM community. You have no doubt cum across the term at some point.

Some kinksters define edge-play as being a certain set of kinks (more on that shortly), and others define it as play that is at the “edges” of their limits and boundaries. Often deemed as risky and not-safe to engage in by those new to the scene, and often requiring at least SOME guidance/ tutorial beforehand.

However, IMO ANY form of BDSM and kinks can be edge-play and it is TOTALLY down to the people engaging in it, as to whether it is edge-play or not. For example, I know some who regard needle-play (inserting needles in one's body for gratification or sensation play) as a common occurrence for them and therefore would not classify this as edge-play.


Others have it so high up their maybe-never list, it would certainly be edge-play.

Is Edge Play all about edging?

No. “Edging” - getting someone/ yourself close to cumming and then stopping, is something else entirely. It can form part of your edge play but the edge play i’m referring to in this instance tends to refer to things such as:


  • Breath play

  • Blood play

  • Watersports/Scat

  • Consensual Non-Consent

  • Knife Play

  • Fire Play

  • Etc.

As discussed above some, or all, or none of these may be edge-play for you.

Breath play is an unusual and hotly debated kink as to whether it is actually edge-play. Many people feel they are able to successfully partake in breath play just by using a light squeeze on their partners throat, with no possible danger necessary. HOWEVER, that light squeeze could be wrongly positioned, wrongly timed and/or cause injury ACCIDENTALLY unless you know what you are doing.


Even Sir and myself have gotten things wrong before, it’s normal, but you must make sure you are appropriately knowledgeable and have a plan as to what to do if the shit hits the fan. You don’t want to be hauled up in court for accidentally choking your missus to death now do you?!


Is it safe or should I file it under, “only if we ever get to go to Oz.”?


It’s risky. It’s called edge-play for a reason because it can be seriously dangerous. You can of course try it out but PLEASE make sure you are educated beforehand. Go to some workshops, learn from others who are more experienced than you!


Make sure that you and whomever you are playing with negotiate what is happening beforehand, use a safeword and practice R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware Consensual Kink):

  • Talking to your partner and discussing scenes (the kinky stuff you want to do) in advance so that everyone knows what they are doing and what they might expect.

  • Gain the full enthusiastic consent from all parties before commencing with the scene.

  • Make sure that safewords are agreed in advance; respect these and the universal “red” which will stop all activities immediately.

If you have any questions about edge-play let me know. I am going to do some pieces on each of the types of edge-play above over the next few weeks! If there is anything in particular you want to learn about hit me up!


Xoxo Serena





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